A Wise Mind: New Thinking

By
Lakesha Mathis

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A Wise Mind. http://www.healthsignz.com. Last Accessed 3/26/2016

The Wise Mind, A New Way of Thinking

What is a wise mind? The wise mind is one that allows a blending of reason and emotion.  The wise mind is developed. Most of us rely on one more than the other and must practice using both to tap into the freedom of the wise mind. Often, women are referred to as emotional thinkers. Acting on feeling with little regard to the facts. Men are characterized by rational thinking. They are fixers. They don’t care much for hearing about how something made them feel, they’ll rather answers for how not to feel that way.

So how do we use this wise mind? Why is it important? Use of the wise mind becomes easy with practice. Transitioning your way of thinking is important to all like changes. You cannot successfully step into a new role continuing to practice behaviors from the past. You use your wise mind by becoming aware of when you are letting either your emotions or rational mind make decisions without consideration of the other.

Here’s an example of how to use the wise mind. The decision of when to allow your teenager to start dating can be an emotional one because thinking about letting your little “butter-bean” grow up is hard. The flash of memories between when they were tiny and only needed you to know how it felt when your heart was first broken can lead you to make the emotional decision to not allow your teenager to date. The wise mind tells you to think about the dating more rationally. Focus on the reality of what dating means for your teenager as they begin to develop and grow into an adult.

The Wise Mind. http://blogs.pyschcentral.com/therapy-soup/2014/04/using-your-wise-mind-to-understand-your-fear-of-abandonment. Last Accessed March 26,2016.

It tells you that of course their need for you has decreased as they have grown older, but dating doesn’t change the fact that they will continue to need you less in some ways, but more in other ways. It tells you that, yes, their little hearts are going to be broken but didn’t you survive your first broken heart? Yes you did and they will too. So the wise mind tells us to prepare our teenager for dating by teaching them acceptable and unacceptable behaviors in relationships; Teaching them respect of self and others.

The wise mind says every time my friends don’t answer my calls is not proof that we aren’t really friends. It’s very likely that the friend has a life of their own just like you. And missing a call is normal. It’s just that missing a call.

Reliance on the wise mind is important because it takes us out of the place of feeling helpless. It allows us to consider our emotions in decision making in a healthy way. It teaches us to lead with rational thinking without forgetting our emotions. The wise mind tells us that even a thief can be reformed, but that it may not be a good idea to leave five crisp one hundred dollar bills unattended in their presence. It doesn’t ask us to treat the thief differently than any other person. It asks us to use all the information we have to make a reasonable decision about our current situation.

States of Mind. http://www.thedandeliongirl.com/wise-mind. Last accessed 3/26/2016.

The transition to wise mind is not overnight. You will need to tune in to how you think. Then address how you make decisions and adjust the pendulum to a space equal between emotional and rational; this space is the wise mind. It’s where sound decision making skills are found.

The wise mind transitions individual thinking from that of victim to survivor. From loser to learner. When things don’t go our way we learn not lose; the wise mind knows this. Sometimes it’s just easier to float on emotion but it’s never best.

 

Sources:
  • Healthsignz.com
  • Blogs.pyschcentral.com
  • Thedandeliongirl.com
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Dark Side Of Emotions

By
Sourav “Teddy” Biswas

Sometimes, what tends to be a part of greater success, often becomes the reason of a lifetime tragedy. Not many of us face this twist of amalgam. The life that we lead is often a subtle ride of ups and downs, but our emotions definitely ride a higher ground than we seldom do. We get emotional when things don’t add up the way we intend or originally intended them to. The time that passes with every second of the clock doesn’t stop for our thoughts to flow in symphony with it. When the dust settles, and we start to hear ourselves breath, these unsynchronized thoughts can either remain a feeble dislocation of pages in our life, or some eerie flip of a coin which we never want to discuss.

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The internet carries substantial words about how emotional people lead a better life. Yes! That’s true with no sore doubts. But on the ground below, the candle never sees the amber light of the flame itself. Our emotions masks our vision to see the world in a more assertive way when we feed fear to our sentiments. Tragedies like the loss of loved ones, or a rampant enigma in our path of success, can lead us a downtrodden flow of our self conscious and feelings. On the flip side these teach us to be more logical with our decisions, face our fears with a stronger heart, and a chance to review our sins with a firm grip. We’ll run on the same page with these optimistic opuses if, and only if, we choose not to look down to our shattered self and let our mistakes guide us.

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When our minds and souls choose to walk different paths; we shy away from reality, and tend to experience a series of unfortunate events or situations. The cure to our depression and emotional nemesis of our well being doesn’t easily find a door to come in. Then we are faced with sleepless nights and oscillating thoughts of how to pick ourselves up to move again.

These dark emotions always teach us where we have gone wrong with our decisions and where have we made mistakes in life . The will to reach our destiny should never be squeezed out by our emotional negativity no matter what. Faking a smile when you are wounded is tough, but what can obliterate your sanity, is allowing your dark emotions to wound that smile.

Remember the words of Confucius…

“It does not matter how slowly you go, as long as you do not stop.”

Find Your Passion

by
Jason Nugent

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Passion is a strong emotion. It’s excellent motivation. Passion for art, sports teams, and nations goes deep within most people. What are you passionate about? What gets you up and going everyday?

Discovering your passion can be difficult but doing so creates a fulfilling life. Some of us are content to go through life without feeling strongly towards anything. Apathy overcomes action and we don’t go for the thing that stokes our fires. It’s like we are paralyzed with the ability to act. That leads to withering desires and soon we stop trying for what moves us.

Sometimes too many opportunities exist to choose one thing. Embrace them all! Sooner or later you’ll find that one thing, that one part of you that grows excited when you think about it. When you do, you might create something new or discover something about yourself you never knew.

Our time is short. Spending it pursuing objects or actions that don’t excite us seems dull. Does writing get you going? How about creating art? Maybe working with under-privileged populations gives you meaning. It doesn’t matter what drives your passion as long as you find it and feed it.

Stoke those passionate flames. Seek opportunities to embrace what you enjoy. You may want to collect dolls or baseball cards or rare toys. Go for it! Let that passion move you. And when you do, you’ll see a difference. You’ll find a purpose.

There are numerous ways to express and find your passion. Exploring what excites you can be an exhilarating feeling. Opening up and embracing that passion can offer new doors of opportunity. But only if you try. Giving up before finding your passion is soul crushing. Let yourself enjoy what motivates you. We all need a reason to wake up in the morning.