Welcome to the second installment of the “New Trends In Love,” series,” which essentially discusses the ever-evolving face of dating in the 21st century. In the first installment, New Trends In Love: Pt. I, we focused on how Social Media has impacted and heavily influenced dating in today’s society. In this installment, we’ll take a closer look at how social media, as well as; financial status, politics and romance have become major contributors relationship longevity.
~ Social Media ~
Although, social media seems to get a bad rap in all areas of communication; perhaps, there are many advantages of utilizing it to find true love and happiness. On second thought, it seems to be the perfect way to end a relationship, without direct emotional involvement. Think about it… what better way to text the one you love, that you ‘need space and time’ to think?
There’s no face-to-face conversation, where emotions can’t erupt to make a bad situation worse. Or maybe you’ve witnessed your significant other literally having a ‘devil may care’ attitude; displaying the ‘middle-fingers-up’ or the ‘deuces’ peace sign. Yet, breaking up through Facebook is considered quite trendy and highly effective. Facebook has made it easier to block, hide, unfriend or untag yourself or former love off of your page and out your life. The break up tool Facebook rolled out last year, allows you to update your status privately, without prying eyes and ears to relay information back to your now ex. Nonetheless, most daters tend to prefer for their significant other to communicate their thoughts and concerns directly if they’re unhappy with a relationship or their love life. At the end of the day, both parties are 100% responsible for 50% of the relationship.
~ Financial status ~
Financial stability of a love interest has been known to play a certain role in deepening the attraction for the other person. This is often judged on surface appearance and demeanor. But looks can be deceiving and inaccurate… just because they have a new luxury car, doesn’t mean they have stellar credit. There are fresh start programs out there designed to assist individuals to buy their dream vehicle on a budget, while re-establishing their credit. Just like there are credit cards offering the same program, or furniture rental companies that do the exact same thing. So, going into a relationship totally blind is not recommended, and some people believe it’s best to be honest about your financial situation upfront, as well as your plans to build financial stability.
~ Politics & Religion ~
Finally, you’re on a dream date and everything is going better than planned; until your date brings up the topic of politics and religion. Slowly but surely, the evening starts to crumple when you realize, you’re on two different wavelengths and it’s only getting worse. Granted, discussing important social issues are ideal, and can spark a deeper understanding and compassion for the other’s personal experience. However, it should be handled with care and caution, as to not offend your love interest. On the other hand, people often find themselves attracted to individuals who are passionate about their beliefs and values, even when it doesn’t mesh harmoniously with theirs. Or they find themselves liking the individual more, because they have something in common and can better relate to each other.
If you have prior knowledge and experience with your love interest, taboo topics of conversation may not pose a threat to developing your relationship. On the flip side, if you’re in the beginning stages of your relationship, tread lightly and pick topics that create a more carefree and positive response. Speaking too heavy about sensitive issues can crash land a beautiful start to a potential love story.
Before the days of texting, online chat, and online dating; there was simple phone calls, face to face rendezvous, night club interludes, and night caps. As Elton John once said “roll him like thunder under the covers” until the sunrise greeted your bedroom, the next morning. As seasons changed and time progressed, so does the manner in which individuals communicate with one another; especially, in the areas of intimacy and emotional connections with a love interest. It must be understood, there’s a lot riding on relationships in this day in age. And no longer, does it involve direct contact as in previous decades. Due to growing innovations and technology; contact has become more indirect, and has made the experience of meeting a potential significant other, seem more intriguing and emotionally self protective. That’s not to say, direct contact is taboo and unheard of, but certainly not necessary to bond with someone.
As 2016 slowly closes out, six trends in the area of love and romance, may shed new light for the hopeless romantic. Interestingly enough, being single has never reigned supreme as it does now; if you’re 18-33 years of age, you’re definitely trendy. It appears that women of the new millennium are far more interested in; higher education, waiting for marriage, starting a family, and being career-driven, than earlier generations were. For instance, in the 60’s, women were likely to marry at age 21 and were domestic engineers, or as it was called back then “stay at home mom”. Men of that time entered the military and tied the knot, at age 23, they too are waiting for marriage, starting a family, and more interested in the more traditional bachelor lifestyle.
Due to Skype and similar apps, video messaging has increased in popularity in recent years. These trendy gadgets are making long distance relationships more acceptable and easier to manage by sharing videos, photos, instant-messaging and video calling. It allows couples to enhance the lines of communication and continue building the momentum of a solid relationship. Imagine a live, romantic evening video chatting with the one you love! If done correctly, it’s almost as if your significant other is actually there, so don’t knock it until you try it! Although long distance relationships aren’t for everyone; they possess many qualities of monogamous stability which mirrors traditional relationships, and make it worth giving it a try.
On the other hand, there’s social media trends that don’t necessarily assist in prolonging love, but can actually aid in disrupting the beauty of the relationship; or possibly reveal aspects one was blind to. Facebook is a prime example of the potential or premature destruction of a love story, if not handled correctly. Many couples who announce their relationship(s) on the social media site, suggests limiting personal information, while others who use the site simply suggest keeping your love connections private, and your relationship will flourish and grow through mature interaction and discussion. Always privately message your significant other and never argue on your Facebook timeline.